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Angie Ruiz

Bothered in your interactions? Don't react, respond.

Updated: Apr 3, 2022

In some of our interactions, we feel the other person bothers us, mostly because we don't like his/her certain behaviour.

I'm sure you can think about a recent situation where this happened to you.

If this is a relationship that matters to you, you'd like to improve it, to feel less bothered and respond instead of reacting.



Do you have any meaningful person in mind you could try it with?

The first thing to acknowledge is, that what bothers you is that person's negative mind behaviour. Interestingly, when this happens, it means that your negative mind has been activated in reaction to the other person's negative mind. This even causes a bigger negative impact.


What if when you realise this, instead of getting sabotaged by your negative mind, you pause, reconnect with your body and deliver a response?

Reconnecting with your body can be done through any small exercise using your senses. Breathing, closing your eyes and labelling your feelings, etc.

For the response part, use the following strategy.

See the opportunity behind the bothering behaviour of the person. Yes, no one is perfect, right? You also not. So ask yourself how could you turn this person's imperfection into something more positive for yourself, so that you don't feel bothered? Maybe you can grow your patience, your compassion, your curiosity or your forgiveness, your openness, etc.

Hence, every time this person that matters to you shows up with this negative quality, you use it as a reminder not to react. Instead, you activate your response mode, to prevent you from falling into the reaction of your negative mind.

This will help you to grow your qualities and positive mind and improve the interactions and so the relationship with this person that means something to you.

This is smart, isn't it?

Have fun trying it and reach out to know more.

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